Toxic parents: the irritability admitting it
The first step in resolving a problem is accepting it.
It's the same for me. I'm feeling immense discomfort admitting that my parents could be toxic. The toxicity of my parents is that they want to protect us too much from the hardships of life, and my mother, in particular, doesn't want us to leave town.
Even though I am aware of this, the feelings are overwhelming when they get upset with me because everything is not according to her wishes. It makes me feel like I'm letting them down. That I'm doing the wrong thing.
For me, it's the first step to accepting reality as it is.
Book: Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family by David Celani