The fear of uncertainty
For some people, the fear of uncertainty freezes them, and nothing you'll ever say will convince them that things could be better.
If you don't have the inner power to recognise your fears, you tend to blame everyone else for what's happening to you.
It's unhealthy behaviour for you and your loved ones. For you, living with the feeling that your happiness and all the bad things in your life are someone else's fault. And for your loved ones because you make them responsible for your own happiness.